Whoever could make two ears of corn or two blades of grass to grow upon a spot of ground where only one grew before, would deserve better of mankind, and do more essential service to his country than the whole race of politicians put together – Jonathan Swift, Gulliver’s TravelsMy Ajee passed away last week in New York City. By sheer coincidence I’d already written my article published last week on my reaction to the death of an elderly patient on my watch – “First Crash”, when my father received word that his mother, my Ajee, had to be rushed to the hospital and she was critical. I wrote, “It’s impossible, I think, to be in that place and not think about your own loved ones. It’s impossible to avoid reflecting on whether you’ve spent enough time showing the people you love that you love them while you still have them in your life.” My Ajee was one of those persons I’d thought about.My Ajee, aged 30Since she lived in New York and I in Guyana, I only met her when we visited each other. With ten children, twenty-six grandchildren and sixteen great grandchildren I wondered how she remembered all their names much more their tiniest details, which she did. Of recent, she would faithfully read my articles in the New York edition of the paper – and complain bitterly on those weeks when they weren’t carried! She was a tad partial!But while I may not have been as lucky as my cousins and siblings residing in New York, we’re a family that’s constantly repeating the narratives handed down to us from our parents, and I do believe I knew her so well. As someone interested in history and the role of females in constituting that history, I’ve always been intrigued as to how she transitioned from her mother’s generation where females supposedly had much more “agency” and independence since they worked for wages of their own and were out of the home to one where she was “just a housewife”.But it seemed the times were changing and she and her parents were changing with it. She would gleefully regale us about how she “turned down” the offer from the family of a young goldsmith-to-be for my Aja, who was “tall and good looking” and who would (by sheer coincidence!) pass by her home every afternoon, just when she was “washing wares” at their outdoor sink. Her parents went along with her choice.She was determined to make her life a success and worked together with her husband to make their dreams a reality. She was a quiet woman but with a will of steel and was not deterred by her economic circumstances. She simply did what she had to do. She had thirteen children by the time she was thirty five, ten of them who survived. She scoffed at the “younger generation” of females making a fuss about childbirth!While she only went to primary school, she was determined that her children would receive an education and made great sacrifices to ensure that was accomplished. My Cha Cha’s and Poowas all recount the effect she had on them about imbibing good values with her stories taken from the Ramayan – but more so from her actions. She was very proud and never saw herself as “poor” even though by the official statistics she and her family were so defined. She would never accept a handout and made sure her debts were always paid.She was very bitter that conditions became so difficult during the seventies that most of the gains she had painfully made were wiped out. She was proud of the success she and my Aja carved out for themselves in New York, as well as the success of her children and grandchildren.My Ajee taught me a career is important to a woman but raising a family can also be fulfilling and merging the two can be achieved. She was a good role model for the modern woman.
Pagasa sees cloudy skies, scattered rain showers in volcanic eruption-hit areas View comments Explosive Gilas Pilipinas not yet at its best, says Tim Cone PLAY LIST 01:45Explosive Gilas Pilipinas not yet at its best, says Tim Cone00:50Trending Articles06:27SEA Games 2019: No surprises as Gilas Pilipinas cruises to basketball gold01:05Poor visibility, nakaapekto sa maraming lugar sa Batangas03:028,000 pulis sa Region 4-A, tuloy ang trabaho03:57Phivolcs, nahihirapan sa komunikasyon sa Taal01:04Sold-out: Stores run out of face masks after Taal spews ash01:45Iran police shoot at those protesting plane shootdown01:54MMDA deploys rescue team to Batangas following Taal eruption Black led San Miguel to the 1989 Grand Slam while Cone steered Alaska in 1996 and the Purefoods franchise.“On the outside and off the court, Norman and I are friends but I’ve always felt that we’ve been big rivals through the years even though we don’t compete against each other every time,” said Cone, the only coach to hold two Grand Slam plums.“We’re still big rivals, and we both like to win, both teams like to win and that usually means there’s a rivalry going on,” added Cone.Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next More than 40 quakes hound areas reeling from Taal Volcano’s eruption Air quality in NCR now improving after Taal ashfall Then there’s the budding rivalry between Ginebra and Meralco.In the past three seasons, the two teams duked it out for the final prize of the season and t the Bolts and the Gin Kings are once set to face each other for the Governors’ Cup.FEATURED STORIESSPORTSAndray Blatche has high praise for teammate Kai SottoSPORTSBig differenceSPORTSAlmazan status stays uncertain ahead of Game 4“Well, I think this is what the league needs and it needs rivalries to grow the interest of the fans,” said Meralco head coach Norman Black.Ginebra took the first two finals meetings and it’s this fact that Black said is the reason why this budding feud hasn’t turned into a full-blown rivalry. LATEST STORIES “Normally a rivalry means both teams are winning and they’ve won both championship series so in that sense it’s not much a rivalry,” said Black. “I think we have to beat them a few more times before we actually call it a rivalry.”As for Cone, it’s the fans and the media who dictate if Meralco and Ginebra are slowly becoming a rivalry.“We’ve been at each other’s throats for a while so that usually turns into a rivalry but it’s really defined more by you, the press and by the fans,” said Cone. “We’re going to be rivals no matter what because we’re on opposite ends and we’re pursuing the same thing.”There’s also the personal rivalry between Cone and Black.Cone is the league’s winningest coach with 22 titles while Black is at third with 11, and the two are also part of the Grand Slam club with the late great Baby Dalupan, and Tommy Manotoc.ADVERTISEMENT Stanley Pringle credits teammates for smooth transition to Ginebra Meralco and Ginebra at the PBA Governors’ Cup PBA Finals. INQUIRER PHOTO/TRISTAN TAMAYOMANILA, Philippines—The PBA has enjoyed several rivalries throughout its 44-year existence starting with the most famous one of the Crispa-Toyota feud in the 1970s.There is also the Clasico between the Ginebra and Purefoods franchises but the two teams haven’t fought for a title since the 1997 All-Filipino Conference.ADVERTISEMENT ‘People evacuated on their own’ No need to wear face masks in Metro Manila, says scientist Lava gushes out of Taal Volcano as villagers flee US stocks climb ahead of trade deal, sending S&P 500 to record high ‘People evacuated on their own’ Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. MOST READ